At the start of this month, the Knight and I went away for a few days. We had tickets to see Tim Minchin – a hilariously funny, intelligent, gifted musician, who plays piano, does a lot of political and religious satire, and swears a lot. The Knight and I are both big fans.
We missed out on tickets for his Brisbane show, so when Gold Coast tickets were released, I jumped straight at them, and decided I would figure out the logistics of travelling and hour and a half later. It worked out well, because it’s the Knight’s birthday this month, and he was very happy to have a weekend away and tickets to one of his favourite comedians as an early birthday present!
Functions and events are hard when you have Fibromyalgia. There’s the noise and lights and seats and lots of people and massive amounts of sensory input that drains your energy very quickly. Add to that, evenings are my worst time of day, and I have to make sure I plan to do nothing the next day, to try and avoid a flare.
But you cannot live your life in a bubble. It’s boring and makes your depression worse. So here are my tips for weekend getaways or travelling for functions:
1. Book a self contained apartment
I found a lovely little one-bedroom apartment, with a small but fully equipped kitchen, some comfy couches, a dining table and 2 small balconies over looking the water.
There was a place to play board games, and separate places to eat, so we didn’t have to pack up mid-game. It also meant I could go and nap, and the knight had some comfy couches to relax on without having to sneak around to avoid waking me.
2. Bring your own food
Catering for yourself, not only saves money, but keeps the IBS under control. If you do go out to eat, do your research in advance. If you have dietary intolerances, it is unfair to expect a restaurant to cater for you without any advance warning.
3. Take some extra days
We headed down on the Thursday afternoon before the show on Saturday. This gave me a full day to recover from travelling and to relax and enjoy the time away. We stayed until Monday, so that Sunday could be spent doing as little as possible to hopefully avoid the dreaded DOPEM (Delayed-Onset Post-Exertional Malaise).
4. Bring low energy entertainment
We brought a few board and card games with us, our favourite at the moment is Hero Realms. We also brought Carcassonne and Ticket To Ride (India/Switzerland) as they are both good with only 2 players. This allows us to do something we both enjoy together, and interact. So much better for our relationship than just watching hours of movies sitting on separate couches! (No judgement for those who do this, we do it too sometimes, it’s just not our favourite thing to do together.)
5. Bring your Yoga mat
Unfortunately the FibroTroll doesn’t take holidays. I find yoga and stretching to be very helpful for reducing the overall pain I have each day. The exercises might hurt a bit sometimes, but generally not as much as I hurt when I haven’t done any of them for a few days.
On the plus side, this is the view I had each day as I was doing my exercises.
I also meditated on the balcony each morning. Having the sun come up over the water and shine straight in your face is a wonderful way to wake up!
6. Pace Yourself!
As much as I get frustrated with pacing, it really is extra important to do it when you are on holidays too. Taking the time to relax and not push yourself to do “All The Things!” means that you will enjoy your break and not come home more exhausted than before you left.
7. Do a load of washing
I know this sounds boring and not at all like it belongs in a what to do on holidays list. However, if you are going away for more than just a weekend, there is going to be a lot of washing to do when you get home. If you can, do a small load of washing on your second last day. This means when you get home, you can just put all the clothes back in the cupboard. It will save a surprising amount of energy when you get home.
So those are my tips. They worked fairly well and I didn’t have too much of a flare afterwards. Unfortunately, other health issues have flared up instead, (the FibroTroll has many friends) but at least I managed to keep the FibroTroll mostly under his bridge.
The last morning, when I couldn’t sleep, the picture to the right was my view as I sipped my coffee and the Knight had a little bit of a sleep-in. Not too much of a hardship!
In the end, I can say for certain that it was worth all the effort. I laughed so hard I cried, and the Knight and I have been singing random bits of Tim’s songs to each other for a week!